1 00:00:00,757 --> 00:00:08,105 Oh, when I ask a question in class, even when I don't, people stare at me very hard and make me nervous. 2 00:00:08,125 --> 00:00:08,926 Any advice? 3 00:00:09,006 --> 00:00:09,827 What should I note? 4 00:00:09,847 --> 00:00:13,831 I never had a problem with that. 5 00:00:14,291 --> 00:00:19,677 I don't understand how you can have a problem with that. 6 00:00:19,697 --> 00:00:24,902 Because you would make a terrible therapist. 7 00:00:25,363 --> 00:00:26,744 It just doesn't exist. 8 00:00:26,884 --> 00:00:30,308 If it doesn't exist for me, how does it exist for you? 9 00:00:31,233 --> 00:00:35,340 Well, that's a polycystic view there. 10 00:00:37,263 --> 00:00:40,930 That's good. 11 00:00:41,751 --> 00:00:42,472 Anyways. 12 00:00:43,474 --> 00:00:45,297 Well, just say nervous, nervous. 13 00:00:45,317 --> 00:00:47,982 If you're nervous in class, you're like, I'm nervous. 14 00:00:48,002 --> 00:00:56,937 But there's many... I mean... 15 00:00:57,203 --> 00:00:59,585 It might be difficult to be mindful about it. 16 00:00:59,645 --> 00:01:02,488 I mean, you can go this way to be mindful about it. 17 00:01:03,710 --> 00:01:09,595 But you just try, hey, just don't be afraid of making mistakes. 18 00:01:13,359 --> 00:01:16,062 That's the way it is. 19 00:01:16,923 --> 00:01:21,007 That's who you are, how you look like, how you speak. 20 00:01:21,267 --> 00:01:26,232 It shouldn't be a problem. 21 00:01:26,583 --> 00:01:27,604 But being mindful of it. 22 00:01:28,645 --> 00:01:30,107 Or be mindful about it. 23 00:01:30,127 --> 00:01:32,009 I'll just give you my sort of advice. 24 00:01:32,710 --> 00:01:33,791 Be mindful about it. 25 00:01:33,811 --> 00:01:35,012 You can investigate it. 26 00:01:35,032 --> 00:01:37,515 You might get enlightened. 27 00:01:38,336 --> 00:01:41,379 Okay, I know how it works. 28 00:01:41,399 --> 00:01:42,540 You might get enlightened. 29 00:01:43,641 --> 00:01:48,887 Yeah, you might get enlightened and understand what's the cause and how is it. 30 00:01:48,907 --> 00:01:50,008 But there is no... 31 00:01:51,693 --> 00:01:53,916 It's not reasonable. 32 00:01:54,216 --> 00:01:55,998 Don't worry about it. 33 00:01:56,018 --> 00:02:03,887 There is no actually reasoning behind being nervous because someone is looking at you. 34 00:02:04,728 --> 00:02:08,293 So does telling him to not worry about it mean that he'll be able to not worry about it? 35 00:02:11,176 --> 00:02:12,317 No, I don't know. 36 00:02:12,397 --> 00:02:18,004 I'm just telling him that it's actually like... 37 00:02:19,908 --> 00:02:30,925 It's like, try to note on a piece of paper, actually, why you feel nervous. 38 00:02:31,366 --> 00:02:32,107 Why should you? 39 00:02:32,467 --> 00:02:35,412 What's the reason for it? 40 00:02:35,652 --> 00:02:39,178 Some logical points. 41 00:02:40,840 --> 00:02:42,843 Because there's no logic behind it. 42 00:02:42,863 --> 00:02:44,225 Why should you be afraid? 43 00:02:45,828 --> 00:02:46,429 I can't get it. 44 00:02:46,449 --> 00:02:48,632 I mean, I made a mistake. 45 00:02:48,848 --> 00:02:52,133 I made a mistake, and I made it. 46 00:02:52,153 --> 00:02:54,797 But I personally think that's going to help him, Lucas. 47 00:02:54,897 --> 00:02:59,104 I think he has to really see for himself that it's pointless. 48 00:02:59,304 --> 00:03:03,811 And the only way for him to do that, I think, is to be mindful of it. 49 00:03:04,011 --> 00:03:11,243 I think writing down and saying, oh, it's absurd, isn't really going to make him see that it's absurd, because that's all mental activity. 50 00:03:11,303 --> 00:03:13,506 It's not really realizing, oh, this is absurd. 51 00:03:14,515 --> 00:03:17,818 He has to look at it and see what he's doing to himself. 52 00:03:17,839 --> 00:03:22,543 I think that seems to be what's shown through meditation. 53 00:03:25,827 --> 00:03:26,808 Simply telling yourself. 54 00:03:28,330 --> 00:03:30,272 Well, sometimes it's like that. 55 00:03:30,552 --> 00:03:32,114 You just don't feel confident. 56 00:03:33,015 --> 00:03:34,656 Sometimes you might not feel confident. 57 00:03:34,676 --> 00:03:35,337 That's normal. 58 00:03:35,657 --> 00:03:38,160 So what's the problem with that? 59 00:03:39,338 --> 00:03:41,641 But I think the important thing is seeing that it's normal. 60 00:03:41,761 --> 00:03:44,645 Realizing that it's actually just happening like that. 61 00:03:44,725 --> 00:03:45,406 It's not bad. 62 00:03:45,446 --> 00:03:51,813 If you don't feel confident, just tell them, hey, I don't feel confident. 63 00:03:51,833 --> 00:03:52,574 I'll tell yourself. 64 00:03:52,594 --> 00:03:53,255 Be open about it. 65 00:03:53,275 --> 00:03:56,619 The thing is to tell yourself, I don't feel confident. 66 00:03:56,659 --> 00:03:57,841 And then you accept it. 67 00:04:00,124 --> 00:04:02,407 Or just ask them for like, what are you looking at? 68 00:04:03,248 --> 00:04:05,611 That's maybe a big thing about anxiety and nervousness. 69 00:04:07,413 --> 00:04:08,434 Is... 70 00:04:09,410 --> 00:04:11,016 No. 71 00:04:13,907 --> 00:04:16,015 Being OK with it. 72 00:04:16,035 --> 00:04:17,019 I don't think it has a problem. 73 00:04:17,039 --> 00:04:18,946 I missed what he said. 74 00:04:19,187 --> 00:04:20,010 He was obviously right.