1 00:00:00,031 --> 00:00:07,028 Are you saying that you analyze the act of sexual activities including masturbation in order to stop the act entirely? 2 00:00:07,068 --> 00:00:07,389 Yes. 3 00:00:07,970 --> 00:00:08,752 Yes, exactly. 4 00:00:08,792 --> 00:00:10,517 That's what I'm saying. 5 00:00:10,537 --> 00:00:15,188 But the point is that you need not engage in masturbation. 6 00:00:15,168 --> 00:00:17,411 That's not part of it. 7 00:00:17,551 --> 00:00:18,972 It's a delicate line. 8 00:00:19,553 --> 00:00:25,199 Why I say that and why I emphasize that is because masturbation will actually decrease your awareness. 9 00:00:25,960 --> 00:00:27,742 It's not something you should feel guilty about. 10 00:00:28,543 --> 00:00:32,187 Guilt is a negative mind state and it's not going to help. 11 00:00:34,430 --> 00:00:39,796 But you should never get the idea that if I don't masturbate, I'm going to start repressing it. 12 00:00:40,117 --> 00:00:44,061 This is, I think, a pervasive misunderstanding. 13 00:00:44,041 --> 00:00:55,651 When the desire comes up and you start engaging in bodily activities that are the precursor to masturbation, start to watch those. 14 00:00:56,333 --> 00:01:01,105 If it happens that you start to engage in masturbation, then watch yourself. 15 00:01:01,085 --> 00:01:20,342 And you'll see, and it may be that in the beginning you can't stop yourself, but you will begin to see, no, you will not begin to see, right away you will see the misunderstanding that there's actually no pleasure, no happiness to be found here. 16 00:01:20,322 --> 00:01:30,681 Once you look and you accept this pleasure, because the funny thing about engaging in sensuality is we're not engaging in the happiness, indulging in the happiness at all. 17 00:01:31,121 --> 00:01:34,267 We're engaging in the desire for the happiness. 18 00:01:34,508 --> 00:01:36,932 We're focusing much more on the desire than on the happiness. 19 00:01:36,972 --> 00:01:38,635 And when you focus on the happiness, 20 00:01:38,615 --> 00:01:44,803 suddenly you reassure yourself that, you know, I don't need to do this because the happiness is right here. 21 00:01:45,584 --> 00:01:48,528 And you look at it and then you see it's nothing. 22 00:01:49,068 --> 00:01:52,433 You don't reject it and say, this is horrible, this is actually suffering. 23 00:01:52,873 --> 00:01:53,734 You see it's useless. 24 00:01:54,415 --> 00:01:59,201 You don't even really see it as useless, but you experience it. 25 00:01:59,522 --> 00:02:00,783 There's happiness and that's it. 26 00:02:00,803 --> 00:02:02,205 There's no reaction. 27 00:02:02,345 --> 00:02:06,190 There's no thought, this is good, this is bad, this is me, this is mine, this is this, this is that. 28 00:02:06,951 --> 00:02:08,233 It's happiness. 29 00:02:08,213 --> 00:02:08,994 And it's nothing. 30 00:02:09,595 --> 00:02:10,517 It is what it is. 31 00:02:10,637 --> 00:02:11,779 It's there and then it goes. 32 00:02:12,680 --> 00:02:17,568 You don't become angry or frustrated or disgusted by it. 33 00:02:18,009 --> 00:02:19,771 You just become disenchanted with it. 34 00:02:20,472 --> 00:02:21,634 You lose this enchantment. 35 00:02:21,674 --> 00:02:22,856 The desire disappears. 36 00:02:23,197 --> 00:02:25,260 The happiness doesn't disappear. 37 00:02:25,240 --> 00:02:34,494 Or the happiness is not the issue, but the important thing is that the desire disappears, because the happiness will disappear, it will be gone. 38 00:02:35,335 --> 00:02:49,797 But as you watch the happiness, I'm referring to the pleasure here, focusing on the pleasure will, first of all, allow you to stop the whole seeking process. 39 00:02:51,717 --> 00:02:57,587 And second of all, we'll allow you to give up the desire for the happiness entirely. 40 00:02:58,028 --> 00:03:04,079 We'll allow you to become free from the desire. 41 00:03:04,560 --> 00:03:07,545 We'll allow you to become disenchanted. 42 00:03:08,808 --> 00:03:16,341 We'll allow you to come to terms with the pleasure and let you see that it's actually just an experience.